There are traits that exist in parents, they are there even in more complex and difficult situations in dealing with the adolescent child.
I was privileged to be in the birth that my daughter gave birth to, a birth that was not easy in all respects. The woman who gives birth goes through something, goes through a process. And when I stood next to her and was with her, the qualities of unconditional love and acceptance were manifested in me, I loved her and accepted her very, very much. I love my daughter and I am aware of what she is going through, I am with her and I am there for her.
I accept it, even if that moment is not a beautiful moment, it is not a warm and nice moment, but not so pleasant things happen in it.
I can interpret things for her, mediate between her and the world, because I passed her, I can tell her: "It's not terrible," "It will pass," "Here, this axis is at its peak, but here it is already descending." I explain the world to her. I stand there by the bed, beside her, giving her perspective, proportion. To be a limiting and limiting force.
I stood close to her and received blows from her. She kicked me. My hand was a little paralyzed afterwards, probably because she was holding it tight. I had real muscle cramps. But I was not angry with her. I was standing there. I stood well. I stood there for her, because she's going through something.
Alas, if I were to say, "Well, if you want to kick me, I'm going." Belief in the process - I can not assure her that everything will be fine. I do not know what will happen. But I have experience, I'm older, I believe in childbirth, I believe in the process that exists in childbirth, I believe something came out of it. I can not guarantee what. We did not know if it was a boy or a girl, we did not know if the baby was healthy or God forbid not, we did not know what she would go through until the end of the birth: surgery, stitches or anything else.
I can not guarantee anything. I do not know what will happen. I do not know what the results will be and I am not responsible for the results. I do my best. Everything is in the hands of heaven. I believe along with her. I radiate faith in the process.
Dina Horowitz
From "From This Rock"
